Baby Incoming – Now What?

Most people think that pregnancy is all about the woman, and to a certain extent, that’s true. After all, I don’t have any morning sickness or backache, but I still have to cope with the idea of everything changing and all of the psychological and emotional differences that come with the experience.

When my wife announced that she was pregnant, of course, I was delighted, but I just didn’t know what to expect. Not only did I not have a clue what she was about to go through, but I didn’t know anything about what was involved in being an expectant dad. Since the days have long gone when husbands were kept out of the delivery room and only handled infants at arm’s length, I thought it was important to find out more about the whole pregnancy so that I could be supportive and as helpful as possible.

With that in mind, I’ve been reading up on tips for dads-to-be and learning more about what I can expect when she’s expecting.

Men Get Excited Too

man ear pressed to belly

There’s a bit of a myth that men aren’t really excited or involved with the idea of pregnancy because it isn’t happening to them. I think that’s completely wrong. I admit that it wasn’t as obvious to me at first because she wasn’t showing and there was nothing really very different except the fact that she was feeling sick in the mornings! However, as soon as we went for the first scan and heard the little heartbeat I was smitten. I also think it isn’t true that women worry about pregnancy more than guys. In fact, in some ways, it’s worse for us because it isn’t our body that is going through the changes and there’s nothing that we can really do to help. Women also have friends that they can talk to about their worries and concerns, whereas for guys, it’s pretty embarrassing to discuss this kind of thing.

Feeling Closer Than Ever

Even though some people think that pregnancy can be a time when you become less intimate with your partner, I’ve found that we’re closer than ever before. We snuggle more as we talk to our baby in the womb and I love nothing more than watching and feeling our baby kick. We also share a lot more of our emotions with each other. She talks to me more about her worries, her aches and pains, and I talk to her about the way I’m feeling. I think I feel even closer because I’ve been very involved from the start, going to all of her prenatal visits and scans.

Being Prepared For Less Sleep

baby sleeping on daddy's chest

I think that nature prepares us dads for getting less sleep when baby arrives by making sure that our partners won’t let us get much rest over the last few months of pregnancy. She snores so loudly now that she has to lie on her back that I just can’t get much rest at all and then, just when I’ve dropped off, she wakes me up again by getting up to go to the toilet!

These are just a few of the things that I’ve noticed so far about becoming a dad, but I wouldn’t change it for the world!

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